us!! Today marks the 7th year that Shukri and I have been partners in this institution called marriage. How time flies. It feels like only yesterday that he secretly (or so he thought) send a bunch of flowers to me at the office for my birthday, on the wrong day. Which prompted my other colleagues in the office to rush out and get me birthday cards and and subtly placed the cards while I was at the loo (making it look like a well thought-out plan they had made in advance). Anyway, I was rather amused to have to tell them that they had the wrong date. They were all asking who the flowers were from since Shukri had signed the card with a big X. But I just gave them a mysterious smile and kept my mouth shut. I knew who it was from even if he didn't know that I did. I could see him right across from my desk, pretending to be busy with his drawings and basically making a disinterested look with everything that's going on around us.
You see, we haven't started going out with each other yet at that time although we've known each other almost a year. We were always hanging out together and I guess the attraction was there. But I didn't do anything about is as I had just came out of a relationship right before I started working and wasn't looking for a new one. He, on the other hand, later told me had been giving me hints since the first day, but I was totally blind. Honest!! I seriously did not get whatever hints that came my way. The problem with me is that I take people at face value and any subtleties or hints would just passed through me unnoticed. I supposed he was running out of ideas when he finally seek his dad's help. His dad then had a talk with his colleague, who happens to be my parents' old friend, to 'inquire' about me. Or 'merisik' as it is called in malay.
This may sound old-fashioned to some of you, the elders discussing my marriage options without my knowing. But my dad totally approved of the way Shukri went about this whole thing. Because unbeknown to anyone, that was what my dad did. He had a man to man talk with my grandfather (mom's father) behind my mother's back. Sort of asking my grandfather for my mother's hand in marriage before he asked her to marry him. Of course my parents would have to ask me whether I was agreeable.
When mom told me that Shukri had sent someone to merisik. I got a shock of my life. Never in a hundred years did I suspect anything. Then the laughter just hit me. I laughed in amazement, confusion, delight and uncertainty. All rolled into one. But after a lot of thought and times spent together, I decided it felt right.
A month after that we got engaged. Two weeks before Shukri had to fly to the States for three months for some training he had to attend. Two months after that, we got married. And it's now been seven years. I pray that we have many, many more years to celebrate in the future and may our lives together be blessed by Allah.
And one of His signs is that He created mates for you from yourselves
that you may find rest in them, and He put between you love and compassion;
most surely there are signs in this for a people who reflect.
Surah 30. Ar Rum Ayat 21
You see, we haven't started going out with each other yet at that time although we've known each other almost a year. We were always hanging out together and I guess the attraction was there. But I didn't do anything about is as I had just came out of a relationship right before I started working and wasn't looking for a new one. He, on the other hand, later told me had been giving me hints since the first day, but I was totally blind. Honest!! I seriously did not get whatever hints that came my way. The problem with me is that I take people at face value and any subtleties or hints would just passed through me unnoticed. I supposed he was running out of ideas when he finally seek his dad's help. His dad then had a talk with his colleague, who happens to be my parents' old friend, to 'inquire' about me. Or 'merisik' as it is called in malay.
This may sound old-fashioned to some of you, the elders discussing my marriage options without my knowing. But my dad totally approved of the way Shukri went about this whole thing. Because unbeknown to anyone, that was what my dad did. He had a man to man talk with my grandfather (mom's father) behind my mother's back. Sort of asking my grandfather for my mother's hand in marriage before he asked her to marry him. Of course my parents would have to ask me whether I was agreeable.
When mom told me that Shukri had sent someone to merisik. I got a shock of my life. Never in a hundred years did I suspect anything. Then the laughter just hit me. I laughed in amazement, confusion, delight and uncertainty. All rolled into one. But after a lot of thought and times spent together, I decided it felt right.
A month after that we got engaged. Two weeks before Shukri had to fly to the States for three months for some training he had to attend. Two months after that, we got married. And it's now been seven years. I pray that we have many, many more years to celebrate in the future and may our lives together be blessed by Allah.
And one of His signs is that He created mates for you from yourselvesthat you may find rest in them, and He put between you love and compassion;
most surely there are signs in this for a people who reflect.
Surah 30. Ar Rum Ayat 21
5 comments:
Congratulations......macam ku kenal bag biru itu...:)
Congratulations dear.
May u celebrate many many more good times together.
Aida.
Thanks Iza & Aida.
ya... bag biru itulah yg dibawa kemana-mana...
Congratulation Yaty! Yang mana satu hang yang mana satu Syukri nieh :) Semogan kekal bahagia!
Huggles
kawan lama,
aku dah tak pakai dah cap la ni. pandai2lah figure out yg mana.
thanks
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